Nuts; yes. At least, inconsistent, indecisive and randomly incommunicative. That's fair :-)
I would say that I'm not sure this:
>I suspect that most shy folks have found themselves in this sort of situation at least once--a new friend or romantic partner, with all the qualities that you feel that you yourself lack, and yet who recognizes your specialness. At least until they get what they want from you, and leave you feeling foolish and worthless because you didn't see it coming.
Is really particular to introverts. That's just--bad choice and/or luck in picking other people; it happens to all kinds of folks. (Though I'll agree that there's some chicken-and-egg.)
True; but I think that being a shy person often means not getting enough social interaction, because you don't know how to go after it, and so you tend to be more susceptible to someone charming who offers it up unasked. You may question it less because of your need.
I think there's definitely an element of insecurity about shyness, and it's perhaps why I'm mostly over it when it comes to my work and to certain social groups; I'm not (very) insecure about my writing, or about the friends I've made in the Spec Fic community, and that sort of thing. But, I still definitely find people tiring, so I don't expect that I'll be getting over all of this.
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Date: 2007-07-09 10:35 pm (UTC)I would say that I'm not sure this:
>I suspect that most shy folks have found themselves in this sort of situation at least once--a new friend or romantic partner, with all the qualities that you feel that you yourself lack, and yet who recognizes your specialness. At least until they get what they want from you, and leave you feeling foolish and worthless because you didn't see it coming.
Is really particular to introverts. That's just--bad choice and/or luck in picking other people; it happens to all kinds of folks. (Though I'll agree that there's some chicken-and-egg.)
True; but I think that being a shy person often means not getting enough social interaction, because you don't know how to go after it, and so you tend to be more susceptible to someone charming who offers it up unasked. You may question it less because of your need.
I think there's definitely an element of insecurity about shyness, and it's perhaps why I'm mostly over it when it comes to my work and to certain social groups; I'm not (very) insecure about my writing, or about the friends I've made in the Spec Fic community, and that sort of thing. But, I still definitely find people tiring, so I don't expect that I'll be getting over all of this.